Better Sleep Part 5: Relaxation
For thousands of years, relaxation has been a central focus of spiritual and cultural practices, enabling a sense of calm and connection with oneself and the surrounding world.
Only in recent decades, though, have meditative practices for relaxation become a focus of scientific research, which has come to identify four key elements for fostering the relaxation response:
A quiet environment. Quiet does not have to mean completely silent. Calming sounds or music can be beneficial. Loud, abrasive sounds or noises should be avoided.
A focus of attention. A word, phrase, mantra, breathing pattern, or mental image can all be used to draw your attention and reduce thinking about external concerns.
A passive attitude. Accepting that it’s normal for your mind to wander allows you to remain at-ease and draw your focus back to the object of your attention.
A comfortable position. Finding a cosy place to relax is critical. Naturally, when relaxing to fall asleep, the recommended position is lying in bed. Once you’re lying comfortably in bed, try one of these techniques to put yourself at ease and settle gently into sleep.
Controlled Breathing
Why It Works:
A series of slow, deep breaths can enable a sense of calm. This method, also known as pranayamic breathing, is believed to help reduce stress in the nervous system and may prepare the brain for sleep by reducing excitatory stimulus.
How to Do It:
Option 1: Counting Breaths
Inhale slowly and gently through your nose.
Exhale slowly and gently through your nose.
Count up. You can count each breath or each cycle of inhalation and exhalation, whichever comes more naturally to you.
Option 2: Dr. Andrew Weil’s 4-7-8 Method
Place the tip of your tongue near the ridge behind your front two teeth and hold it in this location throughout the breathing exercise.
With your mouth closed, slowly inhale through your nose while counting to four.
Hold your breath while counting to seven.
Open your mouth and exhale while counting to eight. Because of the location of your tongue, exhalation should cause a whooshing sound.
Repeat this 4-7-8 cycle three more times.
Who It’s Great For:
Controlled breathing is excellent for people just getting started with relaxation techniques or who have difficulty using other objects of focus like imagery or mantras.
Meditation and Mindfulness
Why It Works:
Mindfulness is centered around slow, steady breathing and a non-judgmental focus on the present moment. By reducing anxiety and rumination, it has been found to have sweeping health benefits, including an ability to help reduce insomnia.
How to Do It:
There are many variations of mindfulness meditation for different situations. One easy to use style is the body scan meditation.
Focus on slowly inhaling and exhaling through your nose, if possible, at a comfortable pace.
Notice the position of your body on the bed.
Notice any sensations, good or bad, in your legs and feet. Let your legs be soft.
Continue the “body scan,” observing, from your legs up to your head, each region of your body and its sensations. The goal is to stay present and observe your body without judging or reacting and then letting each part of your body relax.
After scanning each part of your body, reflect on your body as a whole and allow it to relax.
Who It’s Great For:
Anyone can meditate, including with mindfulness meditation, but it can take more practice to get used to. As a result, it usually works best for people who can devote at least five minutes per day to increase their comfort with it.
Progressive Muscle Relaxation
Why It Works:
Progressive muscle relaxation (PMR) creates a calming effect by gradually tightening and releasing muscles throughout the body in conjunction with controlled breathing.
How to Do It:
With your eyes closed, slowly breathe in and out.
Starting with your face, tense your muscles (lips, eyes, jaw) for 10 seconds, then release your muscles and breathe deeply in and out for several seconds.
Tense your shoulders for 10 seconds and then relax and breathe.
Continue tensing and relaxing the following body parts, skipping any area where tensing the muscles causes pain:
Shoulders
Upper arms
Lower arms and hands
Back
Stomach
Buttocks
Hamstrings
Calves
Feet
Who it’s Great For:
Studies have found that PMR can help people with insomnia, and when done carefully, may be beneficial for people who are bothered by arthritis or other forms of physical pain. PMR is not recommended for people with uncontrolled cardiovascular problems.
Watch: How to deal with insomnia and finally get to sleep
Imagery
Why It Works:
Visualizing a peaceful image from your past and all of its details engages your attention in order to promote relaxation. How to Do It:
With your eyes closed and in a comfortable position, think about a place or experience in your past that feels relaxing, such as a quiet natural setting.
While slowly breathing in and out, reflect on the details of this setting and how it looks.
Continue focusing on this image by adding details relating to your other senses (smell, sound, taste, touch) and experiencing the calmness of this mental imagery.
Who it’s Great For:
Visual thinkers who easily recall past scenes replete with details are ideally suited to using imagery as part of their bedtime relaxation.
What to Do About Your Mind Wandering...
Even experts in meditation find that their minds can wander during these relaxation techniques, so don’t worry if it happens to you. Instead, stay calm, keep breathing slowly, and try to bring your mind back to the main focus of attention.
What If I Still Can’t Fall Asleep?
If you get into bed and cannot fall asleep after 20 minutes, get up, go to another part of your house, and do something soothing, such as reading or listening to quiet music.
Lying awake in bed for too long can create an unhealthy mental connection between your sleeping environment and wakefulness. Instead, you want your bed to conjure thoughts and feelings conducive to sleep.
